Each and every one of us is responsible for our own lives. That means
we are responsible for our own growth and development. Adults are not
children, so we need to give them the space to grow themselves and to
develop themselves personally. We can offer suggestions, we can provide a
listening ear and a huge hug when they need it, but in the final
analysis, that person has the final say on their life and where it's
going. We need to respect adults for the mature, capable adults they are
supposed to be and not micro-manage their life. That does not make for a
good boss, nor does it make for a healthy relationship with others.
You
cannot afford to keep holding up your life waiting for others to make a
decision that may or may not affect your life. You may be waiting on
others to want a better life for themselves and because you are growing
and moving forward you do not want to leave them behind. However, if
someone doesn't want something for themselves there is no way you can
force them to want it.
I will even go as far as to say that what
you may want for someone may not be what they want for themselves or
they are not ready yet to make changes in and for their life. While it
is commendable to want more for others, you cannot keep your life stuck
waiting for others. It is important that you do not stop your growth for
no one, therefore, it is imperative that you keep your life moving
forward while focusing on your growth.
Another point to take heed
of is that people can and will string you along for as long as they can
before you even realize what is happening. They will give you a sad
story to draw you in or they will say the right words that they know
will pull at your heart strings and you find yourself understanding them
and waiting on them. You are now at their mercy. They can pull you and
twist you in any way till Sunday. Do you blame yourself once you realize
or become aware of what is happening. Forgive yourself for getting
caught up in the madness and now start to take steps to get your life
going again preferably without those individuals.
Once you become
aware of what is going on, you will no longer allow your life to remain
stuck. People can make promises all they want, however, it is in the
doing that you should put faith in, especially when it comes to your
personal life. Do not tolerate nor allow anyone to run amuck in your
personal life and leave it in disarray. If you find that your life
personal life is in disarray as a result of who and what was in it, then
it's time to do some internal house-cleaning.
It is now time to
take back your life, take back control over the ship of your life, start
playing your life full out and start living the life that is best for
you. Do not make the mistake of stopping your life because you feel that
you should wait on others. No, keep moving your life forward and if
others want to be a part of your life then they will catch a ride on
your ship. If they do not want to be a part of your life, then still
keep your life moving.
You have the power to stop your life-ship
if you so desire, however, do not allow others to slow you down. It is
one thing to stop or pause voluntarily, it is another thing when you
unwittingly allow criticisms and other negative behaviour to seep into
your mind and cause you to stop your own progress. You are now so beaten
down that you barely have the strength to get up in the mornings.
ENOUGH!
Your life is not meant to be mediocre nor is it meant to be wasted
being stuck in the same existence with no change. No, you are meant to
live an EXTRAORDINARY life. So don't be afraid that by
you moving forward you are leaving people behind. If they are for you
they will be right beside you as you move forward. If they are not for
you, then you will meet other people as you move your life forward. It
is not just your heart and soul that you need to nourish. Your mind
needs to be built up in order to become rock-solid.
Having a weak
or a vulnerable mind will cause you to unwittingly relinquish your
personal power. It is then that the negative and harsh criticisms of
others will be able to permeate your mind and twist you up from the
inside out. That is what is called psychological abuse. Once someone has
control over your mind, you no longer own your life. They can twist you
up in any way and in any direction that mirrors their state of mind.
that is why we need to build up our mind so that nothing negative,
mind-twisting can penetrate. Own your own mind, have mastery over your
own mind and you will be able to direct and lead your life towards your
dreams, passions and goals. Having a weakened mind doesn't mean you are
stupid. Far from it. Immense pain can weaken your mental state.
Experiencing
serious life events and having to go it alone can cause your mind to
take a massive hit.
Do not feel guilty if your mind was in a weakened
state. You are human and there are times when life is going to hit you
hard to the point where life knocks you down clean of your axis. Use
this time to rebuild your foundation. Life hit you hard for a reason.
The life you were living, you have outgrown it and life needed to get
your attention, to say, "Hey, you no longer belong over there. It is
time to go down a different path." You are getting an opportunity few
people get or even recognize that they are getting. You are being given a
chance to start your life over from scratch. A life that you can now
build according to your specifications and not those of your family,
religion, culture, media or society.
That is why you should never
look so longingly at what was or what wasn't that you miss the
opportunity to appreciate what is coming into your life. If you need to
take the time to heal wounds of the past, then do so. Your life need you
to be front and center in your present so that you can look boldly to
the future. Although your past may have had great times and wonderful
experiences, there was also a lot of misery, pain, loss and
disappointments. Why would you want to go back to something that caused
you pain, misery and torment? You can't change what happened, but you
can heal so that you can create a new and better today. Remember,
yesterday is gone, tomorrow isn't here as yet, but you do have today and
today should be where you are living your best life.
Refrain from
engaging in should-a, would-a, could-a. That is gone. Refrain from
engaging in, tomorrow it will be better, next year will be better, this
is the life I want to have someday. It hasn't come yet. However, today
you can live your best life, today you can attempt to do one thing that
you are passionate about, today you can tell someone that you love them,
that you care about them. Today is what you have. Embrace it, rejoice
in it and live it to the best of your ability.
As you take your
new life one day at a time, bit by bit you will start falling in love
with yourself. Soon and very soon, you will be living your life fully
and completely in love with the new you. It is that love that you have
for yourself that will catapult you to live in your greatness and living
the best life possible.
There are no limits as to how great and
extraordinary you can live your life. Do not allow the past nor the
future to rob you of your joy. You no longer have to just exist in life
trying to survive day by day. Now you can thrive in your life enjoying
your passions day by day. It is your life, so live it up, live it freely
and live it passionately.
by: Trudy-Ann Ewan
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